Being Amber Rhea

David started the morning off right by sending me a link to this post, because I guess he thought it would raise my hackles.* The author makes a good point in differentiating between casual sex and anonymous sex. For many people, these terms are interchangeable and the idea of one evokes the other. This is probably because they haven’t given the matter much thought, which could be true for a variety of reasons. Regardless, until we have a common vocabulary, we’re not going to be able to fairly and realistically discuss issues of sexual stereotyping and all that other fun stuff.

There were a few points at which my internal “generalization alert!” red flag popped up (and the part about “odds” made a question mark appear above my head), but for the most part, I think she makes some good points and explains her theories clearly. Some of it is along the same lines as what I wrote in my GINF post.

Favorite quote:

That metric makes it MORE likely that I’ll go home with … someone else’s grandfather … than I will with a Mouth Breathing Brad Pitt look-alike who says ignorant things about the power of his dick and wonders if I can take a joke.

Ha!

Conclusion, a.k.a. how this comes back to being All About Me: I like casual sex. Anonymous sex, not so much.

But all this talk about women liking sex with partners who aren’t total j-holes is pretty silly, especially in the face of new ground-breaking scientific information! Alley Rat tells us all about it:

[T]his expert on the human female over at Men’s News Daily, R. Don “Balls of” Steele, knows what’s really up. It’s feminism, and other bad stuff [that causes some women to have trouble reaching orgasm]. Because for women, the orgasm comes from surrendering to the man, being penetrated deeply and completely and giving up all those silly thoughts of equality or getting out of the house now and then or getting some oral action, or whatever.

Female mammals do not doubt the joy of sexual surrender. It is natural and normal until religion or feminism or MTV intervene.

In America, although the homo sapiens female submits to being penetrated, she often does not surrender sexually. There are many reasons why she chooses not to: she does not admire and respect the male, she believes that sexual surrender leads to being controlled by the male, or she fears pregnancy. There are many others.

Go read the fabulous Men’s News Daily post - but try not to stab yourself in the face too many times, because I’d like you to come back and read the rest of my post, okay? Anyway, it’s an awesome piece of writing that (seriously) talks about things like “frigidity” and the elusive vaginal orgasm. Paging Dr. Freud… -wait, what century is it?

You see how our esteemed author makes it all scientific, by using words like “mammal” and “homo sapiens”? Ooh, he’s using biological terminology, so it must be true!

Also awesome is the assertion that if a woman doesn’t lie serenely on her back and take a jack-hammering from some over-eager mouthbreather who’s nicknamed himself “Balls of Steele,” then it means she doesn’t “admire and respect the male.” -Actually, back up. Because, I wouldn’t admire or respect a doofus like that. I’d be more likely to admire and respect a guy who’s actually decent in the sack, and whose knowledge of the female body isn’t limited to what he learned from postwar-era “hygiene” films.

Finally, didn’t Mr. Steely Balls learn anything in 9th grade English about expository writing? Come on, Don! You can do better than “There are many others”!

Be sure to read Alley Rat’s post and the comments, too; she’s got some fucking funny ones.

Up next! Another Every Young Man’s Battle review. In accordance with my “lots of entries about sex” promise, I embarrass some of my readers by telling the story of when I lost my virginity. I get my shit together and take care of the “off-the-computer” stuff I need to get done. Man bites dog.

* Actually, I don’t think I’m using that phrase correctly in this case, because I liked the post; but I just wanted to use it and be Captain Linky McAnchor Tag at the same time.