Comments on: Inordinate attention? I think not. http://www.beingamberrhea.com/2006/04/11/inordinate-attention-i-think-not/ Making the baby Jesus cry since 2002. Thu, 08 Jan 2009 22:48:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Amber http://www.beingamberrhea.com/2006/04/11/inordinate-attention-i-think-not/#comment-28607 Amber Wed, 19 Apr 2006 13:48:15 +0000 http://amber.tangerinecs.com/?p=1501#comment-28607 <blockquote>Personally I think we all of us or most of us have our adolescent insecurities just a fingernail-thin layer or so under the surface. Or, maybe that's just me.</blockquote> I can't speak for anyone else, but I know <strong>I</strong> have moments of insecurity and self-consciousness, which are almost always completely irrational and a throwback to adolescence. All my friends that I've discussed this stuff with say they experience the same. So that's about as close I can come to concluding, "we all experience this" - but I think it's a pretty safe assumption. People shouldn't feel guilty or feel like there's something wrong w/ them for experiencing such feelings. <br /> <br />An important distinction, though, is whether you let those insecurities rule you, or whether you recognize them for what they are, examine their roots, and work through your shit. It's a process that can lead only to greater self-awareness, which is always a good thing. Give yourself permission to be imperfect, but don't let your imperfections control you. If that makes sense.

Personally I think we all of us or most of us have our adolescent insecurities just a fingernail-thin layer or so under the surface. Or, maybe that’s just me.

I can’t speak for anyone else, but I know I have moments of insecurity and self-consciousness, which are almost always completely irrational and a throwback to adolescence. All my friends that I’ve discussed this stuff with say they experience the same. So that’s about as close I can come to concluding, “we all experience this” - but I think it’s a pretty safe assumption. People shouldn’t feel guilty or feel like there’s something wrong w/ them for experiencing such feelings.

An important distinction, though, is whether you let those insecurities rule you, or whether you recognize them for what they are, examine their roots, and work through your shit. It’s a process that can lead only to greater self-awareness, which is always a good thing. Give yourself permission to be imperfect, but don’t let your imperfections control you. If that makes sense.

]]> By: belledame222 http://www.beingamberrhea.com/2006/04/11/inordinate-attention-i-think-not/#comment-28606 belledame222 Wed, 19 Apr 2006 07:55:20 +0000 http://amber.tangerinecs.com/?p=1501#comment-28606 just for clarification after having followed some links: I was not addressing or thinking of Buttercup with that post. <br /> <br />Personally I think we all of us or most of us have our adolescent insecurities just a fingernail-thin layer or so under the surface. Or, maybe that's just me. just for clarification after having followed some links: I was not addressing or thinking of Buttercup with that post.

Personally I think we all of us or most of us have our adolescent insecurities just a fingernail-thin layer or so under the surface. Or, maybe that’s just me.

]]> By: belledame222 http://www.beingamberrhea.com/2006/04/11/inordinate-attention-i-think-not/#comment-28605 belledame222 Wed, 19 Apr 2006 07:37:09 +0000 http://amber.tangerinecs.com/?p=1501#comment-28605 Well, you know I'm in total agreement here, of course. <br /> <br />I do think there are a lot of very mixed messages out right now--and while you know and I know that the prevalence of say "Girls Gone Wild" and so forth is still a symptom of a sex-negative, stuck-in-adolescence mentality ("oo hoo hoo! boobies! lez-be-friends! snicker! tee hee!") I can see where it wouldn't necessarily be immediately obvious to someone coming of age right now. Porn all over the Internets on the one hand. Steady rollback of hard-won rights on the other. Jenna Jameson and John Ashcroft. Strange days indeed. <br /> <br />My thing is, while I don't think Larry Flynt is exactly a hero for the ages, I'm less worried about him than I am about Family Research Council and the Bush Administration. I honestly don't understand the feminists who seem to be obsessed with "pornstitution" to the point where it *looks* to me like they see it as a bigger threat than anything else. Did some people forget what the "patriarchy" was all about in the first place? Hint: for the most part, it hasn't been about amateur pole dancing lessons and high heels. Well, you know I’m in total agreement here, of course.

I do think there are a lot of very mixed messages out right now–and while you know and I know that the prevalence of say “Girls Gone Wild” and so forth is still a symptom of a sex-negative, stuck-in-adolescence mentality (”oo hoo hoo! boobies! lez-be-friends! snicker! tee hee!”) I can see where it wouldn’t necessarily be immediately obvious to someone coming of age right now. Porn all over the Internets on the one hand. Steady rollback of hard-won rights on the other. Jenna Jameson and John Ashcroft. Strange days indeed.

My thing is, while I don’t think Larry Flynt is exactly a hero for the ages, I’m less worried about him than I am about Family Research Council and the Bush Administration. I honestly don’t understand the feminists who seem to be obsessed with “pornstitution” to the point where it *looks* to me like they see it as a bigger threat than anything else. Did some people forget what the “patriarchy” was all about in the first place? Hint: for the most part, it hasn’t been about amateur pole dancing lessons and high heels.

]]> By: buttercup http://www.beingamberrhea.com/2006/04/11/inordinate-attention-i-think-not/#comment-28604 buttercup Mon, 17 Apr 2006 16:06:17 +0000 http://amber.tangerinecs.com/?p=1501#comment-28604 Instead of writing a comment, I put my response in a post at http://buttercupandbean.blogspot.com/2006/04/letter-on-courtesy-in-blogsphere.html. Instead of writing a comment, I put my response in a post at http://buttercupandbean.blogspot.com/2006/04/letter-on-courtesy-in-blogsphere.html.

]]> By: Amber http://www.beingamberrhea.com/2006/04/11/inordinate-attention-i-think-not/#comment-28603 Amber Thu, 13 Apr 2006 20:50:32 +0000 http://amber.tangerinecs.com/?p=1501#comment-28603 Wow, I can't believe there's only one comment on this so far! Do you all just agree w/ it? (That would be awesome.) Or is it just a lot more fun and interesting to discuss pirates and ninjas? (Likely.) <br /> <br />Feel free to share your thoughts, because I am interested to hear what you all think about this stuff. Wow, I can’t believe there’s only one comment on this so far! Do you all just agree w/ it? (That would be awesome.) Or is it just a lot more fun and interesting to discuss pirates and ninjas? (Likely.)

Feel free to share your thoughts, because I am interested to hear what you all think about this stuff.

]]> By: Alyssa http://www.beingamberrhea.com/2006/04/11/inordinate-attention-i-think-not/#comment-28602 Alyssa Wed, 12 Apr 2006 15:32:11 +0000 http://amber.tangerinecs.com/?p=1501#comment-28602 I know we've talked about this before, but I think a big part of this is who much American society has moved backwards socially in the past few years. People got comfortable with feminism and then with the rise of a conservative social movement, sex has become exactly what you have described. And things aren't going to get better anytime soon, because that social conservatism doesn't seem to be going out of vogue - instead, it appears to be growing stronger every day. I'm just waiting for the day I wake up and see a headline stating that people are burning copies of the "Origin of Species". I know we’ve talked about this before, but I think a big part of this is who much American society has moved backwards socially in the past few years. People got comfortable with feminism and then with the rise of a conservative social movement, sex has become exactly what you have described. And things aren’t going to get better anytime soon, because that social conservatism doesn’t seem to be going out of vogue - instead, it appears to be growing stronger every day. I’m just waiting for the day I wake up and see a headline stating that people are burning copies of the “Origin of Species”.

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