I won’t be one of those calling you a “reverse sexist” (but you already knew that). Equal standards is hardly reverse sexism (hey, they expect us to have boobs, we expect them not to — fair, right?).

And yeah, the whole “equal partnership” thing has to be more than just lip service.

It may be slightly different for me as a man, because a man is supposed to be able to do everything and “not be weak”, which is different from “not be selfish” (even though the upshot is sometimes the same - “don’t spend time on yourself”). But I think because of the way I was brought up by my parents, the guilt of “being selfish” is a real factor for me personally.

I know I’m no saint, but Jenn and I are partners and she can (and does) let me know if/when I’m shirking on my 50% of that deal.

Raising a girl is hard too. We’re really trying to see our daughter (5 next month) for her person(ality) first and her gender second, but it’s hard to do. Same thing for our 8-month-old son.

I really appreciate your blogging so consistently about topics like this. I barely have time/energy for one post a day but I always find new things to consider here.

:-)