Comments on: Thoughts about sex work

By: Alexa

Alexa — Mon, 05 May 2008 22:57:26 +0000

You know, Amber, there’s nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about with respect to you not having tried sex work. The important thing is that you make the effort to understand sex workers and advocate for their rights. That means far more in the world view of things that whether or not you’ve worked a pole (on a stage or with a client). ;-)

By: Blanche Debris

Blanche Debris — Mon, 05 May 2008 15:29:34 +0000

OK I’m jumping back in for a sec … I’ve never read Emilie’s blog, for the record, and I don’t want to seem like I’m ganging up on her. I’m just fond of offering up self-explanations …

In reference to my comment about fucking Republicans (LOL), I gather that, to some, fucking a Republican would only be done in the direst of straits (”needing money very fast, and very badly”). LOLs again. For the record, again, I was a SW for a little over 2 years;
A client’s political leaning didn’t matter to me, though it certainly seemed to me that most of my clients were of a conservative, or at least libertarian bent.

I didn’t do it b/c I needed money fast. I did it b/c I am a lazy slackass who only wanted to work 2 or 3 hours a week and go out and party with my hippie/pagan friends and go to concerts and festivals the rest of the time. Believe me, I got plenty of shit from my “straight” friends when they found out what I was doing for money.

My two favorite clients were a cigarette and weed smoking art gallery owner and a dowdy, dumpy beer-drinking Ga. Dept. of Labor employee who would always bring me margaritas and cheese nips. Ha ha! Not guys you would date, you know, for free. But they were nice and our time spent often felt like a mini-party. I still smile when I think about them.

Of course, I also had one hippie guy I would fuck sometimes for an ounce of weed (street value: $200-$250). Ah crap, did I just admit that? But … he was a guy I already knew (ex-husband of one of my friends’ friends).

(I used to party too much, BTW!!!)

By: Emilie

Emilie — Mon, 05 May 2008 14:35:15 +0000

Amber, I was only dashing off something that popped into my mind after reading the comment above (”Liking sex is one thing, but learning to like it with older/heavier/often Republican men…”) with a little emphasis on how money can make things more palatable. NO OFFENSE!

As for my worth reading list being ~~sub par~~ subjective, why didn’t anybody leave a comment to let me know of something better? I’m always trying to keep that list updated. Thanks for your input.

By: Amber

Amber — Mon, 05 May 2008 13:13:31 +0000

Agreed, Ren. “Worth reading” IS subjective. I’ll admit it would stick in my craw a little less if Emilie hadn’t just left a condescending comment here; I think we all use language like “worth reading” from time to time, but in this case it strikes me as a little less off-the-cuff than normal. I don’t know.

By: RenegadeEvolution

RenegadeEvolution — Mon, 05 May 2008 12:21:09 +0000

I just checked out Emilie’s blog, and will probably go back and read more, but when I see a big old thang saying “prostitution blogs worth reading” I get a little leery. Sure, folks don’t have to read/like all sex worker blogs, but I’d say “worth reading” is very subjective…

By: Amber

Amber — Mon, 05 May 2008 11:23:13 +0000

Emilie,
I have been in that position (of needing money very fast). Perhaps it was unintentional and/or perhaps I am reading things that aren’t there, but I dislike what I perceive as a superior/judgmental tone to your comment. You don’t know everything about me. Comments such as this were exactly what made me hesitant about posting this in the first place. It’s the reality of my life and my feelings, you don’t have to like it but there it is. That’s what this blog has always been about first and foremost to me.

Btw, I’ve been a reader of your blog for some time now (just never commented) and have enjoyed it.

By: Emilie Dice

Emilie Dice — Mon, 05 May 2008 08:09:32 +0000

You’d be surprised at what needing money very fast, and very badly, will make you capable of doing. Dabbling in sex work simply for the experience is quite another thing.

By: Blanche Debris

Blanche Debris — Mon, 05 May 2008 04:51:51 +0000

Liking sex is one thing, but learning to like it with older/heavier/often Republican men is also part of the mind-warp of escorting. It all depends on how much you like money I guess! Escorting really is a *service* job when you get right down to it though.

Solo porn is fairly easy to get into … maybe just do a one-off for someone else’s site. I once knew a couple who did porn, so, you could even do it while fucking your SO.

Re. the strip clubs — maybe at some point they’ll ban smoking in all bars in Ga. (which would kind of annoy me, I like to smoke when I drink). But yeah, the hustle … bleurgh … Unless you did the Clermont …

By: RenegadeEvolution

RenegadeEvolution — Mon, 05 May 2008 04:08:39 +0000

you’re a good ally.

and even if not the GFE…yeah, you are expected to be able to converse with the client.

By: Apostate

Apostate — Mon, 05 May 2008 03:39:11 +0000

What stops you from a one night stand type of encounter? $200-300 for an hour. Shouldn’t involve too much small talk or GFE.