Comments on: A little further http://www.beingamberrhea.com/2008/07/01/a-little-further/ Making the baby Jesus cry since 2002. Fri, 21 Nov 2008 23:21:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Bob Crispen http://www.beingamberrhea.com/2008/07/01/a-little-further/#comment-20799 Bob Crispen Tue, 01 Jul 2008 22:55:22 +0000 http://www.beingamberrhea.com/?p=1479#comment-20799 Is there a difference between being wrong about something and being obnoxious about our privilege? Can it be that everybody's an assshole and that friends occasionally tell you when you're being an asshole and sometimes even point to where clues can be found? Poor people (etc.) get <em>their</em> insights. If i demand you get <em>my</em> insights or that your insights can't possibly be valid because one of us is more powerful? Somebody said "whiteness is rightness" to help folks build some useful insights about part of our situation (e.g., everything that was on TV at the time). Maybe listening to each other and asking how's the view from up/down/over there? Is there a difference between being wrong about something and being obnoxious about our privilege?

Can it be that everybody’s an assshole and that friends occasionally tell you when you’re being an asshole and sometimes even point to where clues can be found?

Poor people (etc.) get their insights. If i demand you get my insights or that your insights can’t possibly be valid because one of us is more powerful?

Somebody said “whiteness is rightness” to help folks build some useful insights about part of our situation (e.g., everything that was on TV at the time).

Maybe listening to each other and asking how’s the view from up/down/over there?

]]> By: Gracie http://www.beingamberrhea.com/2008/07/01/a-little-further/#comment-20796 Gracie Tue, 01 Jul 2008 22:21:52 +0000 http://www.beingamberrhea.com/?p=1479#comment-20796 This is why I have such a difficult time in "social networks"; it's complicated enough in real world groups, but being online seems to magnify things, putting them under a microscope so to speak/type... And the specific behavior you mention becomes so exaggerated that I can't bear it. 'Tis why I don't appear at many places. I read, but don't "participate" (directly with comments or even joining lol) as much as I should/could/would if there was some more constructive way to deal with this. The down side is all these years later people are still surprising me by their "discovery" of SK etc. Maybe I just never learned to play nice. ;) Seriously, I do well on the radio, at my own sites, & even when confronted in person (live or email etc.), but the group behavior on the 'net is (usually) so beyond my tolerance. This is why I have such a difficult time in “social networks”; it’s complicated enough in real world groups, but being online seems to magnify things, putting them under a microscope so to speak/type… And the specific behavior you mention becomes so exaggerated that I can’t bear it. ‘Tis why I don’t appear at many places. I read, but don’t “participate” (directly with comments or even joining lol) as much as I should/could/would if there was some more constructive way to deal with this.

The down side is all these years later people are still surprising me by their “discovery” of SK etc.

Maybe I just never learned to play nice. ;)

Seriously, I do well on the radio, at my own sites, & even when confronted in person (live or email etc.), but the group behavior on the ‘net is (usually) so beyond my tolerance.

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