links for 2008-9-11
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“The whole adversarial relationship thing, that I like to make fun of so much in Cosmo and other women’s magazines, that try to give you tips to ‘get him to propose’ or whatever, like the whole relationship is a con job? It makes me physically ill. I want to be with someone who is my best friend, who I can lounge around in my jammies with and argue about politics and religion and trade books with and yes, have amazing sex with until we’re so old that our bones creak. I don’t think it’s love if there are games involved.”
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“The fact is that since ‘masculine’ has been constructed as the neutral form for so long in ‘patriarchal’ society, for women to ‘repudiate femininity’ doesn’t give them a neutral option. It mostly leads to the embrace of masculine bodily and clothing signifiers–thus, you catch women comparing how long it’s been since they’ve shaved, when body hair has been socially constructed for so long as a signifier of manhood. Women congratulate themselves for not dressing in a feminine manner, when the opposite is to adopt clothing gendered masculine.”
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“Stop dancing around the topic. When you watch TV and hear folks talk about Wal-Mart moms or small, rural towns, they are talking about white Americans. These catch phrases never include African-Americans or Hispanics.” Good article, via Nikki.
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Um. This article TOTALLY misses the point. Oh my freakin’ GOD does it miss the point. It starts right off blaming women for their own abuse, putting the responsibility of ending abusive behavior on them, and shaming them for being sexual. This isn’t feminism – it’s age-old double-standard bullshit. The article even uses the term “faux-liberation.” Stabbity stabbity face face face.
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“This is torture of a civilian citizen on US soil for expressing political views and without being charged with a crime. He fell off his bicycle and bumped into a cop, who said there was no harm done before the guy was rushed and arrested. You can’t make excuses now that it’s just for foreigners, or immigrants of dubious documentation, or criminal terrorist types that we just know did something. This here is a grade-A white cissexual able-bodied male citizen who fell off his bike and got nabbed, with enough evidence to press charges regarding his allegations. And those of you who have been saying that torture won’t be directed at you, it’s okay, it’s excusable, it might even be a good idea when it’s thrown at brown people from other countries? Queers you don’t know? Trans women of color who’re probably whores anyway? ‘Enemy combatants?’ Now you’re seeing its fruition.”
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“I have said before that I think sex blogs do a tremendous service by exposing the complexity of sex as it is woven through the rest of our lives. At the amazing Sex 2.0 conference I discussed the importance of sharing sexual knowledge in a time when information about sexuality is increasingly privatized and controlled by corporations. At that session we also discussed the personal risks people take in engaging in this work, and one way to manage those risks was to adopt as much anonymity as possible, which is experienced by many as a capitulation to the stigma they are trying to fight. I have even argued (see the forthcoming issue of Feminism and Psychology) that the continued expansion and maintenance of a ’sex commons’ where people can exchange information about their sexual experiences, desires and fantasies should be taken on as a necessary feminist project.” Yet another smart, important, well-written post by Elizabeth.
Sep 11 2008 09:14 am | Category: del.icio.us links
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