links for 2008-10-24
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My “expert” is your girlfriend, or, the wide, wide gap between selling & doing sexpertise (Sexerati)"Heaven shame me for suggesting that the oomph and sass of feminist sexuality can’t thrive in a men’s magazine or talk show: in fact, it’s fucking subversive to attempt to hack that shit. But when that’s the only venue available for a big broadcast to-do on What Needs To Be Said About Sex? In a neat way that fits around commercials and publishers’ bigger interests in pushing the hot new thing always? All those mimeographed manifestos on the power of the pussy start to seem awesomely powerful again."
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"When sex work abolitionists talk about drug abuse or past or current sexual, physical, or emotional abuse among sex workers, I become incensed. I am unable to speak clearly. I only seeth. It is incredibly condescending and presumptious to claim that you know what someone’s experiences have made them do or feel. It is up to that person to say. Furthermore, let’s play along. Let’s say ninety percent of sex workers were sexually abused as children. So what? To continue to talk about continues to objectify that person and rob that person of his or her agency as a human being. Once a victim, not always a victim!"
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"This is in direct contradiction to the popular belief people have about sex work, even by some sex workers themselves, that charging for sex somehow establishes male entitlement to the sexual female body carte blanche. I'm sure there are men out there for whom that holds true, but most men who feel so entitled decidedly DO NOT expect to pay. They want sex to be given on demand. Like any other spoiled child, they don't want to do chores for an allowance, they just want the money! Period. Simply for existing. So too do those men expect sex from women, simply because they are attracted to said woman and think she should spend time with him on that fact alone. Despite this rather repulsive blight on the male species, I do not think all men are like this. But as usual, the squeaky wheel gets the grease."
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"We are advocates here for solid research on sex work, especially on working conditions across the many sectors of the sex industry. It is especially galling when bad research, often bad enough to be called 'research'-in-quotes, gets passed off to support public policies that make working conditions more dangerous (e.g., driving sectors of sex work further under ground or making it harder to report crimes or workplace dangers). "
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"I have to wonder about the adult who is so naïve and or stupid who does not realize that what they see on tv, or in a mag, or what not is not reality. I wonder about the adult (who owns a TV) who does not know about make up artists, hair dressers, fashion consultants, personal trainers, good lighting, airbrushing, so on, so forth. I wonder about the person who does not realize that even the most gorgeous woman in the world looks a lot different with her make up off. … And you know, that IS part of the reason I like to take part in events where I get to speak to anti-porn folk, because when I do, women and men with this particular gripe are looking square in the face of a 30+ year old woman with crooked teeth, a bent nose…and now, burn scars all over her neck. So yeah, I’m skinny, and yeah, I have fake boobs, but ffs, makeup does fuckin’ wonders for me, as do all those other things I mentioned."
Oct 24 2008 08:31 am | Category: del.icio.us links
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